A few of Dream Center for Recovery’s former clients share their experience with the 5th Step. For those who don’t know what the 5th step is we will take a moment to explain. The 5th Step of Alcoholics Anonymous is ” Admitted to ourselves, to God, and to another human the exact nature of our wrongs.” The 5th Step follows the rigorous inventory we made in the 4th Step and is when we go over our inventory with another person, most times our sponsor.
Kelly G. shares her experience with the 5th Step:
I remember the feeling if freedom that came over me when I put pen to paper and dove into the fourth step with complete honesty. Like the big book stated and my sponsor emphasized, I knew I had to rid myself of all the things that were blocking me from a relationship with a higher power. But I didn’t understand that revealing my resentments, acknowledging my fears, evaluating my sex conduct, and admitting the harm I had done to others was only the beginning of the fifth step. I would now be embarking on a journey of self awareness, finally recognizing the part I played in each aspect of the fourth; why I was resentful, where my fears were coming from, why I felt guilt, shame and remorse surrounding my sex conduct and harm done to others. Like the fifth step states, we were admitting the “exact nature of our wrongs”. Working a fifth step with a sponsor opened my eyes to the character defects I was acting on, brought me face to face with my lack of faith, showed me how I was struggling with accepting my past and brought to light the need to practice love and tolerance daily. “We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these matters straight”, the fifth step brought me to the truth about myself and set into motion the work I needed to do in order to become the person I wanted to be.
The guilt and shame of the things we did during active addiction have caused many of us to continue using. Once we are sober we are able to really look at ourselves and begin to change our perception. This shift in perception is what begins the spiritual experience and allows us to learn to live life on life’s terms.
Ryan T. shares how the 5th Step was the point in his sobriety where he truly was able to start experiencing freedom:
In my experience with the 5th step it was one of the most freeing experiences I had to go through. At first glance when I was new there was no way in this world I was going to share my wrong doings or embarrassing moments with another person, especially a man. I had put off doing this vital step and hoped my sponsor would forget I had to do it, but I sat with all this resentment for such a long time it was causing me more and more problems. The Big Book tells me if I don’t do this step I will drink again.
I didn’t want to continue the life I had lived so I chose to do my fifth step with my Pastor and sponsor. It is important that you know the persons who will be hearing your 5th and that they be familiar with the 12 step programs like A.A. Most people will have their sponsor hear it, but in my opinion it is better to have multiple people hear it so I can get a different perspective.
The Big Book offers us promises over and over again. We hear all of the 9th step promises during meetings, but to me the 5th step promises on page 75 are even more exciting. It tells me once I’ve taken this step withholding nothing, I am delighted. I can look the world in the eye. I can be alone at perfect peace and ease and I begin to have a spiritual experience.
Freedom from addiction is a reality. If you or a loved one is struggling contact Dream Center for Recovery today at 1-877-978-3148 and speak to one of our intake specialists. The dream of drug free living is within your reach at Dream Center for Recovery.