ALUMNI NEWSLETTER | NOVEMBER 2015

DCFR news letter

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Thank you for being a valued member of the Dream Center for Recovery community! As an Alumni of Dream Center we want to make sure to keep in touch and let you know about the fun and exciting events going on at Dream Center for Recovery!

We invite you to join us for our monthly Alumni Meeting at Dream Center for Recovery November 20th at 5:30pm, with a speaker who will be sharing his/her experience, strength and hope. If you have any questions or suggestions on how we can keep improving the Alumni Program please email Alumni Coordinator Sarah Hall at shall@dcrmail.com.

We look forward to seeing you!

DCFR

 

UPCOMING EVENTS

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STEP OF THE MONTH: THE 11TH STEP

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Those of us who have come to make regular use of prayer would no more do without it than we would refuse air, food or sunshine. And for the same reason. When we refuse air, light or food the body suffers. And when we turn away from meditation and prayer, we likewise deprive our minds, our emotions and our intuitions of vitally needed support. As the body can fail its purpose for lack of nourishment, so can the soul. We all need the light of God’s reality, the nourishment of His strength, and the atmosphere of His grace. To an amazing extent the facts of A.A. life confirm this ageless truth. – from Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions

The 11th Step Prayer:
Lord, make me a channel of Thy peace – that where there is hatred, I may bring love – that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness – that where there is discord, I may bring harmony – that where there is error, I may bring truth – that where there is doubt, I may bring faith – that where there is despair, I may bring hope – that where there are shadows, I may bring light – that where there is sadness, I may bring joy. O, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in the giving that we receive; it is in the pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Some of our clients have shared their experience with the 11th with us:

The 11th step follows the 10th step for reason. The 10th step asks us to consistently search for questions about ourselves regarding our thought process, behaviors and ultimately our human nature. The 11th step asks us to consistently search for answers to these questions. We do so by putting effort in to improving our conscious contact with God as we understand him. We are navigating the idea of God’s will and how to apply it in our daily lives.

Surely it is important for us to develop our own understanding of God, considering we are taking steps to align our will with our idea of God’s will. When I talk about god, I’m simply talking about higher instinct. I’m talking about love, kindness and selflessness. This is my understanding of God. The more I apply God’s will in my daily life, the more happiness and purpose I experience. The more I search for God’s will, the more applicable it becomes. This is why prayer and meditation are crucial for my recovery.

I look at the idea of prayer in practical sense. Prayer is a form of submission, allowing me to let go of my own will. I’m asking for help while trekking through life. I am opening up dialogue with God. Meditation is an outlet to receive direction from God.Meditation is essentially the idea of natural focus, eliminating unnatural distraction and mindfulness dulling pleasures. This can be done in several different ways.I like to simply sit. I focus on my breathing and when my mind wanders, I notice whatever thought comes to mind, I label it and then I go back to focusing on my breath. When I sit, I often come out of the session with new found resolve. Every time I meditate, I recharge my compassion and understanding to some extent. I can actually figure out how to best make decisions about specific things in my life.  I say with conviction that this practice greatly improves my quality of life. When I sit, I am truly awake. I am truly aware and I can hear God’s will.

Searching for awareness is extremely beneficial to my overall view of the world. In my experience, the nature of awareness is a final reality.My conditioned mental instinct likes to create an ephemeral view of life, which often works against me in my journey for happiness. When I am truly aware, I am able to simply “view,”opposed to “having a view.” Instead of my thoughts and feelings moving through a subjective filter and in turn dissipating, I have the chance to experience the understanding associated with a final reality. When I meditate I am given the gift of an almost primal element infiltrating my thought process. What this means is that my perception becomes aligned with reality. Now I don’t have to look at things the way my conditioned mental instinct tells me to. I don’t have to focus on things like my car insurance bill, or my dogs next vet appointment. These things aren’t final. When I am truly aware, I must only stay alive. Easier said  than done, of course. I think the major benefit of awareness is that the more aware I am, the more I can be of service to others.My level of awareness directly corresponds to bettering the lives of others. Instead of thinking about the ins and outs of why my roommate never takes the trash out which results in resentment, I can simply say to myself “the trash needs to be taken out.” This helps him because now I can either take the trash out, or I can calmly ask him to do it, or rationally explain why I need reciprocation with chores around the house. If I was not aware of the final reality of the situation, which is the trash being full, I would have then focused on him as a person. I would have lost the sense of interconnection I have with all beings. I believe if I am to muster a true and perpetual awareness, I can then be of service in ways that are more important and beneficial to others than solving the trash can crisis of 2015.  – Micah Deckop