Thank you for being a valued member of the Dream Center for Recovery community! As an Alumni of Dream Center we want to make sure to keep in touch and let you know about the fun and exciting events going on at Dream Center for Recovery!
We invite you to join us for our monthly Alumni Meeting at Dream Center for Recovery October 25th at 5:30pm, with Alumni Zach R. who will be sharing his experience, strength, and hope. If you have any questions or suggestions on how we can keep improving the Alumni Program please email Alumni Coordinator Sarah Hall at email@example.com.
We look forward to seeing you!
Step of the Month: Step 10
“The emphasis on inventory is heavy only because a great many of us have never really acquired the habit of accurate self-appraisal. Once this healthy practice has been groomed, it will be so interesting and profitable that the time it takes won’t be missed. For these minutes and sometimes hours spent in self-examination are bound to make all the other hours of our day better and happier. And at length our inventories become a regular part of everyday living, rather than unusual or set apart. “ – from Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions
I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding & effectiveness; To take daily spot check inventories of myself; To correct mistakes when I make them; To take responsibility for my actions; To be ever aware of my negative & Self-defeating attitudes & behaviors; To keep my willfulness in check; To always remember I need Your help; To keep love & tolerance of others as my code; & To continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.
Step 10 suggest that we continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. This means that we are going to make mistakes but we must make amends promptly when we have harmed someone. Step 10 gives us clear directions by asking that we continue to “watch” for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.Remember that these are the defects we were looking for in steps 4,5,6, and 7. We are supposed to ask our Higher Power to remove them when they crop up, then discuss them with someone immediately, and make amends if we have harmed anyone. After this, we turn our thoughts to someone we can help.
When I was newly sober I struggled with God’s will. I had a difficult time understanding what God wanted me to do so I would pray diligently thinking that God was going to speak directly to me but God never spoke directly to me. I would sit in meetings and listen to the old-timers say “do the next right thing” so God was talking to me through his children because I would hear the message of hope. Those times that something I heard in a meeting finally clicked was Gods will. As I look back I know what Gods will was for me. It was to stay sober. Gods will was for me to help another human being, to feel the joy of playing with my children, to be a good person, and to continue to grow spiritually. They say, “if you’re not growing you’re going”, to me that means I must put effort into my sobriety or I lose it. The 10th step helps me do that. There is a Tenth step prayer that says “How can I best serve Thee-thy will not mine be done.” This prayer is how I align my will with Gods.
The tenth step is designed to grow spiritually and take an honest look at myself on a daily basis. When I feel like life is a struggle then I must look at step 10 and ask myself am I honestly doing a daily 10th step. I must stay in line with Gods will.
Nicole S. shares her 10th Step experience:
It’s been 10 months and I have nothing to wear!
Seriously! I stand in front of my closet each day, ripping through my clothes, but can’t find anything to wear. Aren’t these the clothes I bought when I returned from rehab in January???? It’s only the end of September… what could possibly have changed?!?
My clothes, shoes, my old jewelry… none of it matches “ME” anymore.
My journey of recovery is starting to reveal this other woman who has been living deep inside me. She was stuffed under broken relationships, loose ends, resentments, childhood abuse and then numbed by drugs and alcohol.
I drank and drugged so I wouldn’t have to feel… so I wouldn’t have to face the truths about myself… those things that have been the heavy anchors keeping my authentic self –deep below the surface. My sponsor refers to this as “soul sickness”. Yes, my soul has been very sick and ONLY by attending regular meetings, being completely and painfully honest while working my steps and being WILLING to let my sponsor guide my way am I slowly but surely healing from the inside out.
The healing IS happening. The woman that stands in my place today is certainly NOT the same woman who stood here ten months ago. I am returning to my true self… my authentic self.
I am certainly not done yet… nowhere near… but am moving closer, one day at a time.
Ready for a new outfit? Maybe just one. ☺