When you finally agree to enter an alcohol rehab, there are probably a lot of things on your mind. Of course you are going to wonder and worry about how things are going to be when you complete your stay. You may worry about rescuing the relationships you have damaged along the way. You may be concerned about your future prospects and your career as well. These are all very valid concerns. There are going to be others that you will have to face and then work through as well.
Life is full of stress. There is no magical wand to make that ever change. How you deal with stress, worries and concerns is going to have to change. That will be among the skills and lessons that you learn during rehab. Being able to apply those new skills and lessons will be what helps you make your recovery a success.
Better Life Skills
During your very earliest days in rehab, you will get used to living with a set schedule and a routine. You will learn to take more personal responsibility not only for yourself through personal hygiene reminders but to take responsibility for the area around you. You will be tasked with things like making your bed and cleaning your room so that you are grounded in reality. This is not meant to be a “vacation” from your life. You are going to be working toward beating a difficult addiction and improving the person that you are.
Other life skills that you may learn (or relearn) during rehab include:
- Money management and budgeting
- Staying on task and meeting deadlines
- Accepting personal responsibility even for tasks in which you have little interest in doing
Everything in life is designed to cause you stress. This is something that most people accept and move past. Some people may use things like social media to relieve their stress. Some exercise or take up hobbies. Some people turn to negative things like drugs and alcohol and eventually everything becomes even more stressful because of their addiction. During rehab you may be asked to find new possible coping skills. Maybe you will revisit something that you loved before but ended up giving up because of the stress of work and daily life. Maybe your addiction caused you to give up a hobby and now that hobby can help you get past your addiction.
Recognizing and Dealing With Your Own Emotions
Some addicts started using because of a personal trauma of some kind. Instead of facing their emotions they buried them down and pretended to be okay. Eventually they may have turned to alcohol to keep their emotions under wraps. Some people will not admit when they feel sad. Some refuse to allow themselves to feel angry or hopeless and worse, they won’t allow anyone else to know that they feel that way either. Being able to name your emotions and to let yourself feel the way that you feel can be key to a full recovery.
Counseling sessions during and after rehab can help you unlock some of your emotional chains so that you can have a full expression of the pain, anger and confusion that you are experiencing. On the flip side, these sessions can also allow you to feel happiness without reservation as well.
Learning How to Interact with People
The world is a mish-mash of people that are different from one another. Even family members are often direct opposites of one another. Conflicts will arise. During rehab you will work on dealing with conflicts in an appropriate manner. This particular lesson will serve you in every situation from personal relationships to how you handle things in a professional setting. Being able to deal with conflicts in a healthy manner can help to prevent some of the additional stress that past behaviors may have brought about.
Rehab won’t make you “love” everybody. That is not the goal. You are still going to go out in the world and find people with whom you disagree and even people that you just do not like very well. That’s okay. Everybody else is dealing with that. The goal will be to learn how to get past the time you have to spend dealing with that person without harboring resentment and additional stress factors.
Recognizing Your Warning Signs and Triggers
Working on you is a hard thing for many people to face. They may have been the protector or the nurturer for everyone in their life while neglecting themselves. Rehab makes you face yourself in a way that you may never have had to do before. It will help you learn what can trigger you and how those triggers may make you turn to alcohol for comfort. Once you know what your potential triggers are you can work on building strategies for avoiding or lessening them. From there, you can work on learning to recognize when you are facing a difficult test and when you are most risk of relapsing.
You will also learn what to do when you see those signs in yourself whether that is calling a sponsor or reaching out to a trusted friend to simply removing yourself from the situation if that is possible.
Relapses are Not Failure
You may also learn that a relapse is not a failure on your part. You will learn to reframe your thinking about that and understand that beating an alcohol addiction is very difficult. It may take several attempts before you finally manage to get yourself back on track. You may struggle, some days more than others. You may feel like you are going to fail and then surprise yourself with your own strength. No matter what, as long as you are willing to keep working, you are succeeding.
If you or a loved one is struggling with an addiction and feel it is time to reach out, call us, day or night at 877-978-3148. We are ready to take your call.