Are you in a relationship where one or both of you are having a substance abuse problem? Do you feel that a couples rehab would be best for the both of you? Before you go jumping into entering a couples rehab, you need to really think about what would be best for you. Rehab is an individualized program which is unique to each an every person who enters.
What does your future hold for you? This is your chance to get your life back on track and learn how to be a better you without the help of the harmful things you have been adding into your life. Now is your time to focus just on you and your needs so let’s make the best of it. Here are some things to think of if you are still thinking couples rehab would be best for you.
What is Your Relationship Like?
What is your relationship based on? Did you meet before you started using or did you start using together? Is there peace within the relationship or is there a lot of fighting? Does the fighting get physical? Are you are on the receiving end of emotional and/or mental abuse? Are you and your partner able to communicate in a way that doesn’t turn into the blame game or is one of you always blaming the other for something?
Is your relationship at the end of its being or will it become stronger after you or both of you have gotten the help you need? Is your partner codependent on you or are you codependent on your partner? Does your partner get jealous every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex or is it the other way around? Is your partner enabling your addiction or are you enabling theirs?
These are all questions that you really need to ask yourself before you get into rehab. Since rehab is an individualized program, it is best to go in by yourself but have an amazing support system of family and friends who are all for you getting better.
The Best Rehab Program
What is your individualized program going to be like for you? Are you going to be able to speak freely about all the things you want to and need to in order for you to accomplish your goals? Are you going to be able to participate in all the activities and opportunities that are available to you if your partner is there by your side?
Do you and your partner have the same passions? Do you like music and your partner something completely different? This could become a major problem in you reaching your goals. Are you going to be able to share information about your how you feel your relationship might have contributed to where you are if your partner is by your side? Are you going to be able to be the best you possible with your partner by your side?
All these questions may be hard to answer at first, but really you need to think about what is best for you. Your partner could be holding you back from figuring out what has really caused you to get to where you are as well as stopping you from getting to where you want to go. Your future of sobriety needs to be done by yourself and it has to be your choice. If your partner is the one for you, they will get clean themselves and/or support and wait for you.
Your Future is Yours in Recovery
How is your overall health going to be affected if you continue on the path you are going? How is it going to be when you get the help you need and change your life for the better? What would you like to do with your future? Do you have dreams that you haven’t accomplished yet? Dreams that you thought were so far out of reach that you never see them coming true? Why not reach for them now. You are in charge of your future, own it!
Do you have family at home who you have neglected due to your substance abuse? Have you missed out on important milestones in your family? Have you neglected your responsibilities to your job, school, family, friends, those you love? Have you done things you are not proud of and would like to make them right such as stole material things or money from your family and close friends?
How can you focus on you if you are more concerned about your partner’s needs? How can you focus on your future if you have someone else there that could be holding you back? How can you focus on your needs if you have someone who is codependent on you? How can you focus on anything to do with you if you are more concerned about your partner?
It might be a hard decision for you to make and it might be harder to tell your partner but it is a decision that needs to be made and discussed. Your best decision is to do rehab alone but that is your choice. A choice that your partner needs to respect and accept. If your partner is not willing or wanting to respect and accept your decision, then its time to let go of your relationship with your partner.
Overall, the best chance you have at reaching your goals and staying sober is when you are completely able to focus on you, your recovery, and your future. Give us a call today and see how we are able to help you, 877-978-3148. We are available 24 hours a day so feel free to call with any questions.
If you are having a really hard time making these decisions or even seeing what is the best for you, maybe because your judgment is clouded, then you need to talk to a trusted family member, friend, or even someone of authority.